Have you ever had any? Do you know what I’m talking about?
It’s those times when it’s as if the universe collides and everything builds up to a perfect moment. It might be love, comedy, lust and even pain.
Music might be in the background, doves fly out from who knows where, something unexpected and unreal happens.
It’s one of those moments that is almost eerie how perfect things had to be for everything to conspire in such a way.
I’ve had people ask how this stuff happens to me. I don’t know if there is a clear answer as to how or why, but I think I have a few things that I do that make it more likely for moments to happen.
5 Tips for Creating Real Life Movie Moments
1. Be Curious
This first one is huge, be curious! It’s difficult to have movie moments when you repeatedly do the same things day in and day out. When life is in a constant cycle our brain switches us to ‘auto mode’ if you will. Things become less exciting because we consistently do the same thing. (Watch the movie, ‘Click’)
The best way to work on curiosity is try new things. New restaurant? Try it out. Never driven down that road? Play some music and take a drive. What does that button do? Push it. Take the red pill.
2. Roundhouse kick fear in the face
Oh fear… The underlying factor that truly hinders us from fully experiencing life. Don’t be bound by it! Before I make a crazy decision I always think, will this kill me? Most every time the answer is no, so I choose to say yes.
I used to be afraid of everything. I was afraid of animals, roller coasters, trying certain foods, certain sports. I used to get teased from my family because you would always hear me saying, “I don’t wanna” as a child. I would run back inside and read or play video games. It was safe, but it didn’t create memories, so I learned to change.
Face fear head on and tell it to fuck off. I’m telling you, trying something you’re afraid of is incredibly liberating. What’s the worst that can happen? You try it and may not like it, whatever ‘it’ is. If that’s the case, you are no longer afraid of it, you just come to the truth that ‘it’ isn’t for you and you move on.
3. Think bigger, then think even bigger than that
In my head I’m constantly building up ideas around me. I’m imagining how to make things bigger, better and more exciting. Start doing this with the little things and build up.
Feel like making a cake? Make it two layers and add some extra sprinkles. Feel like having a water balloon fight? Add hoses and massive squirt guns. Your friend just ran a 5k? Sign up for one, download an audio file on learning french and learn a language while you run yours.
One of the guys I work with and I do this all the time when it comes to blowing up simple ideas. Here’s a sample conversation that we may have.
“I’m thirsty, let’s go grab a Coke or something”
“Okay, but we have to buy those mini umbrellas too”
“Only if we can drink it in the sun and use them for shade afterward”
“Sure, but if it rains we have to put em together for more protection”
“Or…we can blast some Rihanna in the background while we choreograph a hit dance”
“Then we can hire more dancers and start a flash mob team”
“We can blow it up, move to dreary Seattle and start our own business”
“It’ll rain so much we can not just stay in business, but expand it”
“Then we can use our money to buy a mountain of Coke and little mini umbrellas!”
“Yeah… (takes sip from Coke) we should do that for sure.”
Then we go back to work. None of that would happen, but whenever you do have a plausible idea, you can brainstorm and really take it to a whole new level.
4. Realize that at worst, you will be back at square one
Always keep this thought in your mind.
This is one of the biggest motivating factors when it comes to my decisions.
At worst, I could have been rejected, never met a favorite hip-hop artist, been sent to jail and bailed out. Either way, with every possible outcome, I would have ended up right back where I am now. I’m still alive and living life as usual. Seriously, think about that.
What’s the worst that can happen? If your life won’t end and you won’t die, take a risk. (Still be mindful)
5. Always be prepared
Be prepared for ‘movie moments’? How?
Yes. If I had a secret sauce for making stuff happen, this would be it. I’ll tell you exactly how. Be aware of everything around you and what you can do it with it. This ties in a lot with #3.
Everywhere I go, I take note of places and what it accessible to me. Even where you are right now, mentally prepare for the time when somebody says, “I’m bored, let’s go do something different”.
Keep in mind a unique store or shop you saw. Remember that weird food you came across but didn’t try. Know what places have nightly shows and performers. Think about how to use the stuff you have with you.
Remember #1 about how I said be curious? I’m always wandering and have a lot of little known gems that I haven’t done or taken anybody too. If that right person or situation comes along then I’ll be ready to experience something in a new and memorable light.
At the end of the day…
it ultimately comes down to you and how you view your life. Nobody else can determine what is memorable and what is not. My movie moments may seem like nothing to other people, that’s totally cool.
If you’re trying to get some buzz in your life going, try some of the tips. It’s what gets me into and out of trouble, maybe they will for you too : )
So tell me, what are some of your movie moments? Leave a comment below, I would love to hear from you guys!